What you believe about yourself, your sense of value and your sense of worth set the limits for your life. More importantly, it sets the limits on how you treat others. I have met numerous people over the years that really don’t like themselves. They constantly focus on their shortcomings – “I’m too fat. I’m too small. I’m too slow.” and so on. They can’t understand why they don’t enjoy life or have any enthusiasm or why their relationships aren’t working.
Years ago I worked with Tammy. Tammy could not understand why no one in the office would have lunch with her. She had the reputation of telling you all the reasons that she would never get a promotion. Who would want to spend their precious break listening to a woman berate herself because she did not feel she was smart enough to go take her Excel certification test.
“I don’t have a mathematical mind. I flunked algebra in high school. I can’t type. I am too old to learn anything.” She was a broken record. Therefore, like everyone else in the office, I stayed clear of her. It was exhausting to keep reassuring her that she was good enough.
I believe that you cannot be negative toward yourself and expect to live a positive and upbeat life. Maybe it is time for us to make a mental change. Is this hard? Absolutely! Is it worth it? Absolutely! Start each day by declaring something positive about yourself. “I have a nice smile.” “ I am good at typing.”
When you treat yourself well, it will have an effect on the people around you. As you live this way, you will find you will be a happier person for it.